on being married for six years

We've arrived at six years today! We've known each other for over a decade and we've done a lot of life together.The past six years have been a series of victory laps and climbing mountains and dredging through low low valleys. I want to share some thoughts below, but first, here are some crazy pictures from when we first started hanging out and dating because its fun to reminisce.





Today, at six years I am sitting on our deck watching the kids play and Kyle work in the yard and my heart is just happy.  I want to take a minute to reflect on a few things that we've learned along the way. If you have yet to enter marriage, I pray that these words may be a realistic encouragement. If you are there with us maybe there can be some solidarity in these words. And if you're past this part of marriage maybe just giggle and say " oh honey, if you only knew"

You will change. oh boy- will you ever!  But, marriage changes you in the best way possible.  and I honestly mean that. Although if you asked me that 4 or 5 years ago I'm going to bet I wouldn't have the same answer.  We were not prepared for what God was doing in our lives-  so many struggles and personal insecurities surfaced at the beginning of our marriage. But these certainly launched us into seasons of growth that we needed.

You will grow.   Marriage will always be about growth & choosing to love one another. We've learned how to make each other mad.  We've learned how to disappoint.  We've hurt each other.

and the flip side?

We've learned how to lean on each other. We've learned the importance of communication and grace. We've faced heartbreaking circumstances together. We've celebrated so many good things.  We challenge each other.  We encourage each other.  We believe in each other.

And that's the sweet spot of marriage. There will always be challenges and struggles. and there will always be victories and goodness.  But we've learned that we have to walk through all of that together. hand-in-hand. heart-in-heart. Walking in the truth of what God designed marriage to be.



Today we celebrate and acknowledge that this marriage is so orchastrated by God. I love you Kyle Nicholas. I cherish every day I have with you. can't wait to see what this year holds for us.

xoxo, R